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PAIRS Tools and Exercises

🔍 Clarifying Expectations

Start strong, stay close.

Answer six simple questions to explore what you really want from your relationship. Whether you're just beginning or deepening a connection, this exercise helps uncover hopes, assumptions, and emotional needs that lead to greater closeness and trust.

🧭 Daily Temperature Reading

Check in. Feel closer.

This five-step conversation builds connection through appreciation, openness, and shared dreams. Regular “DTRs” keep your relationship growing, even when life gets hectic.

 🗣️ Talking Tips

Say what you feel—be heard with heart.

Use 10 sentence starters to express what’s on your mind and in your heart. Whether you’re sharing something joyful or sensitive, this tool helps you speak with courage and clarity, and listen with empathy.

💧Emptying the Emotional Jug

Pour out pain, make space for joy.

With compassion and permission, gently release emotions like anger, sadness, fear, and worry. Lighten your emotional load and reconnect with your capacity for love, laughter, and intimacy.

🏦 Caring Behaviors

Grow your Love Bank.

Discover the little things that make you and your partner feel loved. This exercise helps you offer and receive caring in ways that build emotional intimacy and trust—one act at a time.

🌋 Volcano Anger Ritual

Let it out—without burning bridges.

Release intense feelings in a safe way. Like a volcano erupting with care, express anger fully while your partner listens without judgment. Then learn the rules that make sharing strong emotions safe and healing.

🗺️ Relationship Road Map

Find your path to lasting love.

Explore the journey from pain to pleasure in your relationship. Learn how bonding—your biologically-based need for closeness—shapes your connection and how to get the love you really want.

🔄 Communication Stress Styles

What’s your style under stress?

When communication gets tough, many people retreat, attack, distract, or placate. Learn how to replace distance-causing patterns with a fifth style that brings more understanding, honesty, and closeness.

💌 Letting Go of Grudges

Free yourself with forgiveness.

Create a personal “letting go” letter with Yodi’s help. Gently explore old hurts and discover whether you’re ready to release a grudge—for your own healing and peace of mind.

🤝 Fair Fight for Change

Turn conflict into connection.

Learn how to bring up an issue with clarity, ask for what you want, and resolve disagreements with mutual respect. When done right, conflict becomes a gateway to deeper trust and understanding.

🪢 Untangling a Love Knot

Uncover what’s really going on.

Surface hidden expectations and assumptions that may be silently sabotaging your relationship. This tool helps you get clear—and get closer.

🧠 Joyless, Loveless, Mindless Messages

Change the story. Change your life.

Identify the limiting beliefs and messages you’ve carried—often since childhood—and replace them with affirming, life-giving truths. Make space for joy, love, and awareness.

⚠️ Confiding an Emotional Allergy

Explore the triggers that cause intense reactions.

Learn to recognize intense feelings that can build up when one of your emotional allergies gets triggered, get comfortable confiding in a trusted partner, and discover the power you have to make new choices.

🖼️ Museum Tour of Past Hurts

Confide about painful, hurtful experiences of the past.

Learn to confide about upsetting experiences from the past to create greater closeness and intimacy.